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One of Those Weeks

Posted by jeromefaraday on August 15, 2013

It’s been one of those weeks, which, of course, means it’s time to double down on some positive affirmations. While not a total cure all for a bad day (or week), they certainly help me center myself and move in the right direction.

I recall a line from the kid’s TV show “Little Bear” given by the frog. He basically said a day can’t be good or bad. It’s just a day. I’m reminding myself of that this week. A week can’t be good or bad. It’s just a week.

So, from here on out, it’s going to be a good week. Events don’t determine what I believe. I determine them.


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Short Men Issues

Posted by jeromefaraday on April 24, 2013

heart in sandSometimes, I hear from short men who tough they have it. While short guys aren’t typically a part of a disadvantaged group, there’s no doubt that, especially for a guy, being taller is associated with more success. And, for many short men, they hear about it all the time.

I am shorter than average and I heard it all the time growing up. People weren’t typically mean or malicious. They’d say something like “he’s so little” and mean it in a cute sort of way. But, as a child, I took it the wrong way.

At school, it was just as hard. We’d line up by height and it was always known that those at the shorter end were less popular. The same was true for playing sports. And, you don’t even want to get me started on the short men dating issues!

But, like with anything, short men issues can go away with the right attitude. As I’ve taken control of my life in other ways and gained confidence and joy, I’ve noticed the height issues also disappeared.

Dating, work, and other forms of success have started to come naturally and have nothing to do with my height. In fact, taking a create your own reality attitude is much more important in the grand scheme of things then any alleged limitation at birth.

So, I challenge every shorter guy to actually get over his issues and stop being so hindered by his height. You create your own reality. While you can’t change your height it doesn’t have to hold you back in any way: at work, with friends, dating, or anything! Create your own reality and get out there and make the world a better and more loving place!

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Keeping Faith

Posted by jeromefaraday on April 24, 2013

I just wanted to check in and say I’m keeping faith after all the tragedies befalling the United States. We can’t lose sight of all the good in the world. And, those of us in the create your own reality movement know that a positive thought is far, far more powerful than anything negative.

So, today let’s vow to increase our positive energy and not be driven by negativity. The world has too many good things to let the negatives draw us in. Here’s to making the world a better place!

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It’s About Risks

Posted by jeromefaraday on April 18, 2013

First off, it’s great to be back blogging on this site. I need the outlet this place provides.

Second, I’ve decided to come back with a very important topic: risk taking. While most blogs and articles will focus on the need to avoid being risky, I’m taking a different view. Isn’t it interesting that most of our “education” about risks centers around avoiding them.

Of course this makes sense because so many people take needlessly bad risks: drinking and driving, using drugs, driving fast etc. But the desire to take risks in life is actually a good thing that we need to nurture, as crazy as that sounds.

The most successful people are actually risk takers. That’s because most rewards require risk. Significant rewards usually require major risks. Starting a company, for example, requires a lot of time, effort, and risk. But, it can lead to such great rewards as more money, freedom, and flexibility.

So, taking risks in life can make us happy because it leads to greater rewards. Not only that, but risks throughout life can actually be pleasurable. Our brain enjoys the experience of taking risks with the possibility of rewards. It’s why gambling feels so good and people become addicted.

Don’t go out and do anything stupid. But, try to start taking some good risks in your life. Follow your dreams and go out on that limb to make them happen. If you stay in your current comfort zone, you’ll never enjoy the fun and meaning in life that comes with the rewards of risk taking.

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Confessions of a Swinger

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 15, 2010

Please don’t get too excited…or outraged. I’m not talking about open relationships or going from partner to partner. Nope. I’m actually referring to swinging. You know, on an actual swing. And I did it at a playground.

I think American society would probably rather I was a traditional “swinger.” And that’s a problem.

As I sat on a bench surrounded by the deep pink of the burning bushes and the vivid yellows of the autumn trees, I watched my 3 year old daughter frolic on the playground. It looked pretty fun, but I felt my role was to sit and watch. Actually playing (especially by myself) would get me funny looks or categorized as either insane or horribly immature. Nonetheless, I started swinging. Of course, it probably helped that my daughter was swinging beside me.

The whole incident got me thinking: why don’t adults play? Sure, we play in our own ways like going out with friends, buying ‘toys’ like cars, etc. But, can we really have the carefree simplicity of childhood play? Where we don’t worry about status, money, or anything else except the moment? You know the moment, although it may require some serious thought.

Swinging felt really good. Not only because I could do it with my young daughter, but also because it made me feel young and carefree again. And because it helped me realize that feeling wasn’t as far away as I thought.

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Why Do We Create A Negative Reality for Ourselves?

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 8, 2010

I posted this response (slightly modified) in an internet forum to the question of why we often fail to truly believe in our dreams and ability to create them.

I think you address a very important point about LoA failure: that crippling inner dialogue. Many LoA amateurs often see belief as a wallpaper, when in reality it’s the foundation itself. People may think they truly believe, but it’s merely paper covering a rotten core: and deep down they know it. Thus, their affirmations are a constant battle between their mind pretending and wanting to believe and the subconscious which knows the truth.

I used to be a school teacher (in the USA) and let me tell you: conditioning is real and it starts early. Even if the parents don’t beat the love of life out of a kid, the schools will happily do it for them (one reason I’m no longer in that profession). The system teaches us we should follow orders, sit still, aim low, work for someone else, retire and die. I know I’m exaggerating for effect, but it’s not too far off. This is the rotten conditioning most of us have to cut through to manifest our desires.

How do we undo it? I think it comes through recovering the joy in the everyday. We become so grateful for the present we no longer hold onto the hurts and failures of the past and feel no desperation for the future. We live in the eternal now. And with that comes a sincere and genuine (note those words) gratitude for all we have.

Granted, it’s easier to write than to do! I think achieving this state requires meditation and prayer. Why? Because both of those, when done right, bring us peace. And with peace, worry about the past and the future cease. Speaking practically I would recommend a lot of daily meditation. I’m not perfect, but I notice huge differences in my mental power when I meditate and when I don’t. I personally like self-hypnosis to get in me in the right frame of mind, followed by lots of silence and reflection.

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The Reality of the Future and Detachment

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 5, 2010

The other day I was searching for a book. I’d just had it in my hand and briefly laid it down. But, it had disappeared. I started to feel a little annoyed, then I backtracked mentally. The book was found. That’s right, I knew the book had already been found. It had to be in my bedroom somewhere. It was only a matter of a little looking. But, in the reality that exists outside of space and time (which quantum physics seems to suggest the world is in some fashion) it was already found.

It wasn’t a huge insight, but it had a profound impact on me. Much of what drives us to anxiety and fear is stuff that’s already occurred on some level. Outside of time, the job-seeker has found work, the aspiring musician has a hit song, etc. This doesn’t negate the work necessary to achieve the reality, but it allows us to detach from the outcome. For example, a person of incredible wealth who works to keep busy can approach that job in a different way than the person weighed down by debt for whom that job is a terrible necessity.

Likewise, when we’re trying to attract something in our lives, we must have such faith in its occurrence that the anxiety that comes with not having it disappears. We can’t truly be enjoying our dreams if we have anxiety about getting them. The revelation I had with the book helped me internalize an important dimension of the law of attraction: you must not only feel like you’ve already achieved it, you must also detach from the outcome by knowing its reality.

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Morphogenic Fields, Cultures, and Cities

Posted by jeromefaraday on September 22, 2010

Yesterday I posted on the idea of M-fields and thought today I’d discuss what I see as the cultural connection. Specifically, do groups of people, through collective ways of thinking, create their own reality? I think the answer is yes.

I’m going to look at the city of Cleveland as an example. The city started out in a spirit of success. Even though it had terrible winters and less than ideal land, the people made the most of its location next to Lake Erie and Cleveland prospered. In 1949 Cleveland was named an All American City.

However, in the 1960’s, a shift occurred. A combination of racial unrest, lagging industry, and a loss of talent to the suburbs created a more negative environment. This reached its height when the Cuyahoga River caught fire in 1969. The next decade wasn’t any better as the malaise continued and the city defaulted on its loans in 1979. Cleveland became “the mistake on the lake.”

Since the 80’s Cleveland has seen some improvements, but its population still stands at half of its 1949 numbers. The city is still mired in low housing prices, economic despair (it jockeys with Detroit for poorest city in the US), and bad sports teams.

In fact, all three professional teams (Indians, Browns, Cavaliers) have suffered from awful performances and the tendency to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory even when they do achieve some measure of success. The recent debacle over LeBron James’ departure is indicative of a city resigned to despair.

The question is this: did Cleveland create a morphogenic field for failure by internalizing the media barbs from the 1960s and 70’s and failing to re-imagine itself? Sure, demographic trends hurt Cleveland (white flight, moves to the sunbelt, loss of manufacturing). But, other cities have successfully re-invented themselves. Did enough people in Cleveland just simply give up that failure became inevitable?

Perhaps. But, whether Cleveland (or other cities, groups, etc.) created a negative M field, the good news is that these are not life sentences. If Cleveland can pull itself together and change its culture of failure, then it could create a new field of success. It certainly has the tools to do it (Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, Cleveland Clinic, hard working people, etc.).

And, maybe the success of Cleveland could create a positive morphogenic field for all Americans, allowing us to pull ourselves up from this recession and again assume a spot as a place of success, innovation, and freedom.

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Exploring “M” Fields

Posted by jeromefaraday on September 21, 2010

One of my favorite authors the last few months has been the late Michael Talbot whose most famous books are “Beyond the Quantum” and “Holographic Universe.” They are, I believe, two of the best summaries of the profound implications of quantum physics in shaping a new reality. Reviews of these and other books will be forthcoming.

Today I’m going to discuss a concept I first learned from Talbot and has cropped up in other books/articles I’ve read since: Morphogenic, morphogenetic, or “M” fields (proposed by Rupert Sheldrake). Essentially they are a field (an unknown energy or otherwise) of thought created by existing beings/objects. From a human standpoint, this theory says that if enough people believe in something, then a field changes, and allows others on the same wave length to tap into it.

It may be easier to use some examples. Most people during Roger Bannister’s time thought the 4 minute mile was impossible. However, when he broke that mark, many other people quickly followed him and achieved the feat. The M-field theory would explain that Bannister proved it possible, so a critical mass of humanity believed in it and what was impossible became relatively common (compared to impossibility). An example from the animal kingdom is studies on rats more easily navigating mazes they’ve never personally encountered after other, disconnected groups of rats have done it.

I certainly believe there is some truth to the morphogenic field theory, especially as it applies to human cultures. I think it can explain positive and negative cultural phenomena and will explore this issue tomorrow.

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Coming Soon: Ghetto Physics

Posted by jeromefaraday on September 18, 2010

It looks like William Arntz, the producer from What the Bleep Do We Know? is back. His newest project is Ghetto Physics. It appears to be a survey of world history and current reality based on the idea that some are dominated while others dominate (i.e. you’re either a pimp or a ho in street slang).

The movie is obviously going to challenge the correctness of that system and suggest a new way forward. As someone who’s been a ‘ho’ to the system in the past, but said, ‘to hell with that s–t’ I’m eagerly awaiting this film. Watch the trailer above.

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