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Gratitude Tip: Size Matters

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 17, 2010

I’ve heard it said a lot, mainly by coaches and other leaders, that if you do the small things right, the bigger things tend to take care of themselves. Like all nuggets of wisdom, it has its exceptions, but generally I think it holds true. Now I want to apply it to gratitude.

Nothing is too small to be grateful for. In fact, sometimes the smallest things are those which we need to be the most grateful for because their ‘smallness’ is a sign of how blessed we truly are: housing, food, clean air and water, and even breathing. These aren’t small to people who lack them!

This week, I challenge you to be grateful in every moment. When you remember, look around you and come up with ten things to be thankful about right then and there. Right now, for example, I’m grateful for my computer, the music coming from my computer, home heating, a television, the toys in my house, the kid who plays with them, her health, the safety of my neighborhood, the autumn leaves falling on my lawn, and our collection of funny DVD’s.

Try it. You’ll feel better, more grateful, and closer to God.

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Confessions of a Swinger

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 15, 2010

Please don’t get too excited…or outraged. I’m not talking about open relationships or going from partner to partner. Nope. I’m actually referring to swinging. You know, on an actual swing. And I did it at a playground.

I think American society would probably rather I was a traditional “swinger.” And that’s a problem.

As I sat on a bench surrounded by the deep pink of the burning bushes and the vivid yellows of the autumn trees, I watched my 3 year old daughter frolic on the playground. It looked pretty fun, but I felt my role was to sit and watch. Actually playing (especially by myself) would get me funny looks or categorized as either insane or horribly immature. Nonetheless, I started swinging. Of course, it probably helped that my daughter was swinging beside me.

The whole incident got me thinking: why don’t adults play? Sure, we play in our own ways like going out with friends, buying ‘toys’ like cars, etc. But, can we really have the carefree simplicity of childhood play? Where we don’t worry about status, money, or anything else except the moment? You know the moment, although it may require some serious thought.

Swinging felt really good. Not only because I could do it with my young daughter, but also because it made me feel young and carefree again. And because it helped me realize that feeling wasn’t as far away as I thought.

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Gratitude Tip: Just Do It

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 11, 2010

The following story is from today’s Sunday mass readings in the Catholic Church. It sums up well the quintessential gratitude tip: just do it.

And as [Jesus] entered a village, he was met by ten lepers, who stood at a distance and lifted up their voices and said, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us.”
When he saw them he said to them, “Go and show yourselves to the priests.”
And as they went they were cleansed.
Then one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, praising God with a loud voice;  and he fell on his face at Jesus’ feet, giving him thanks. Now he was a Samaritan.
Then said Jesus, “Were not ten cleansed? Where are the nine? Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?”
And he said to him, “Rise and go your way; your faith has made you well.” (Luke 17:12-19, RSV)

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Why Do We Create A Negative Reality for Ourselves?

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 8, 2010

I posted this response (slightly modified) in an internet forum to the question of why we often fail to truly believe in our dreams and ability to create them.

I think you address a very important point about LoA failure: that crippling inner dialogue. Many LoA amateurs often see belief as a wallpaper, when in reality it’s the foundation itself. People may think they truly believe, but it’s merely paper covering a rotten core: and deep down they know it. Thus, their affirmations are a constant battle between their mind pretending and wanting to believe and the subconscious which knows the truth.

I used to be a school teacher (in the USA) and let me tell you: conditioning is real and it starts early. Even if the parents don’t beat the love of life out of a kid, the schools will happily do it for them (one reason I’m no longer in that profession). The system teaches us we should follow orders, sit still, aim low, work for someone else, retire and die. I know I’m exaggerating for effect, but it’s not too far off. This is the rotten conditioning most of us have to cut through to manifest our desires.

How do we undo it? I think it comes through recovering the joy in the everyday. We become so grateful for the present we no longer hold onto the hurts and failures of the past and feel no desperation for the future. We live in the eternal now. And with that comes a sincere and genuine (note those words) gratitude for all we have.

Granted, it’s easier to write than to do! I think achieving this state requires meditation and prayer. Why? Because both of those, when done right, bring us peace. And with peace, worry about the past and the future cease. Speaking practically I would recommend a lot of daily meditation. I’m not perfect, but I notice huge differences in my mental power when I meditate and when I don’t. I personally like self-hypnosis to get in me in the right frame of mind, followed by lots of silence and reflection.

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The Reality of the Future and Detachment

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 5, 2010

The other day I was searching for a book. I’d just had it in my hand and briefly laid it down. But, it had disappeared. I started to feel a little annoyed, then I backtracked mentally. The book was found. That’s right, I knew the book had already been found. It had to be in my bedroom somewhere. It was only a matter of a little looking. But, in the reality that exists outside of space and time (which quantum physics seems to suggest the world is in some fashion) it was already found.

It wasn’t a huge insight, but it had a profound impact on me. Much of what drives us to anxiety and fear is stuff that’s already occurred on some level. Outside of time, the job-seeker has found work, the aspiring musician has a hit song, etc. This doesn’t negate the work necessary to achieve the reality, but it allows us to detach from the outcome. For example, a person of incredible wealth who works to keep busy can approach that job in a different way than the person weighed down by debt for whom that job is a terrible necessity.

Likewise, when we’re trying to attract something in our lives, we must have such faith in its occurrence that the anxiety that comes with not having it disappears. We can’t truly be enjoying our dreams if we have anxiety about getting them. The revelation I had with the book helped me internalize an important dimension of the law of attraction: you must not only feel like you’ve already achieved it, you must also detach from the outcome by knowing its reality.

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Gratitude Tip: Gratitude Blitz

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 3, 2010

Sunday gratitude tip for the week of October 3rd:

Sometimes we all need some kind of fire to get us (or keep us) going. We may keep a gratitude journal or make an effort to stay upbeat, but the weight of the world can sometimes be pretty heavy. Reflecting on a few positiv aspects of our life each evening may not seem to stack up to the overall negativity we perceive in our lives. This is when it’s time for what I like to call the “gratitude blitz.”

Get out a sheet of paper or get up a word processing program and write down one hundred things for which you’re grateful. That’s right, not five, not ten, not even fifty, but one hundred! Be general, be specific, include past and present (hold off on future for a moment; more on that next Sunday) and above all enjoy the feeling of the good things God has given you in life.

After you’ve written these one hundred things, keep the list close by and whenever you’re starting to feel negative or down, whip it out. Even better, add ten or twenty more each time you read it. It’ll be a constant reminder of how much you have to be grateful for.

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My Experience With Self-Hypnosis (Part 3)

Posted by jeromefaraday on October 1, 2010

The last few blog posts have been grouped around the theme of self-hypnosis. On Wednesday, I discussed what it is and how to enter a trance. Yesterday, I explained how trance feels. Today I want to talk about how the actual experience has impacted my life.

Let me say that I’ve come to rely on my daily dose of trance a lot. If I don’t self-hypnotize myself, I miss it. If I go several days without it, I feel less mentally powerful, if that makes any sense. Why? I think it’s true for several reasons.

First, my trance time is ‘me time.’ As much as I love my family and my life, it still has a hectic side to it. It’s especially easy to dwell on my current lack of employment, for example. My trance is a time where life slows down instantly, the worries disappear, and I have time to assess my thoughts.

Second, my trance time is relaxation time. Part of my emphasis during trance is de-stressing. My script specifically relates to this theme and the results are very positive. It’s twenty minutes of purposeful relaxation which is often missing from most 21st century American lives (mine included).

Third, my trance time is my cheerleading time. In this case I am my cheerleader. During trance, my recorded self reminds my real self of my reasons to be happy, my affirmations, and above all, the feeling of joy and success. Each time I go into trance I am reminded what life is all about and why my life is no longer the negative one I left behind.

Finally, my trance time is insight time. I not only use my self-hypnosis sessions as a time to relax and remind myself of the better things in life. I also use it to get deeper insights into myself and the world. Trance is that rare time in which we’re plugged more deeply into the universe and our own consciousness. I keep a running diary of insights (Word file) and sometimes even talk during trance and see what I say. It’s more of a stream of consciousness type of thing. I also visualize what comes to my mind and run with it (e.g. if a house comes to mind, I walk in and look around, etc.).

As I conclude my 3 part series on self-hypnosis, I would like to recommend it to everyone. It can be used as a form of meditation, prayer, self-improvement, etc. It has transformed my life and I hope it can do the same for you. If you have any questions, consult books, the internet, or ask a question in the comment box. I’ll try to offer as much help as possible.

Part 1
Part 2

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